Toxic love, unhealthy relationship, toxic relationship, and bad relationship are all different names for the same thing as I see it.
Toxic love is a sickness in the hearts of the participants. It is a union of unhealthy and needy individuals. It is a parasite of the human spirit. It uses another person’s weakened spirit to survive. It is an emotional cancer that destroys the healthy parts of a person until there is nothing left except an empty shell– unless its progression is stopped!
A person in a toxic love relationship can fool themselves and their partner into believing that they are protectors, givers, nurturers, or enlighteners. The condition of the relationship is one of uncertainty, anger, neediness, insecurity, and suspicion.
This is yet one more expression of The Lie.
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“Toxic Love” Show Notes
In this episode, I share on the following topics:
- A Review of Last Week
- The Cost of Independence
- Driven to Say “Yes”
- Examples of Toxic Love
- The first Adventures in Grace Listener survey
When God considers you, does He deceive Himself in some way or does He know who you truly are?
If He knows who we truly are, then why do we preface His understanding of us with phrases such as “in God’s eyes we are righteous” or “forgiven” or “loved” or “pleasing” and so on? Are we trying to say that God is not living in reality? That He is somehow involved in self-deception? Is He just some old grandparent type who wants to overlook the faults of His grandchildren? Either He really knows who you are or He doesn’t. Playing with words this way keeps us from experiencing the reality of who we are. It also dishonors who God is.
The second question is, If you think of yourself differently than God thinks of you, who is mistaken, you or God? How often do we allow our minds to overrule what God says is true? Keep in mind, you were made by and for God. He has placed within you needs that only He can meet. If we try to have these needs met by another person or persons, we will end up frustrated, angry, and unfulfilled.
A new mindset: I have great worth apart from my performance because Christ gave His life for me. I am in covenant with Him. I am of great value because He made me, He loves me, and simply because I am His. I am deeply loved, fully pleasing, totally forgiven, accepted, and complete in Christ.
“Toxic Love” Episode Resources
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